Is it the clothes your wearing? The voice? Your body? Your brain? Your feelings?
The impact the women make in our society nowadays is overwhelming. We make ourselves heard like never before and we will soon be leading the world and changing an entire's planet consciousness.
We've been living in a society run by men with rules and habits imposed by men, and we're now transitioning to a world where men feel discriminated and emasculated. It's funny how more and more men around me complain about not getting a specific position within the company because they are not a woman. It's funny cause we're so used to be the other way around. And the other day, a colleague was complaining about how he had to change a woman's perception at a store when he bought flowers for HIMSELF and not for a woman. The sale assistant was in completed shock a man would want some flowers just for his coffee table.
I know what most of you think. These are exceptions. Or it might take a few more hundred years until we get there. And you're probably right.
I was raised with a clear definition of how to be a woman.
- Wear heels and dresses.
- Clean, cook, wash.
- Smile, get married, have kids.
- Live others (husband's, children's, mother's) life. A woman's life is based on sacrifice.
In Romania, we have this tradition at the end of the wedding reception. The godmother (which is the person who vowed to protect your marriage and offer you advice and help when needed) takes off the bride's veil and replaces it with a scarf.
It symbolises the transition from a young, innocent lady to a grown-up, responsible, woman. It also shows the woman is now a submissive wife to her husband. The scarf used to be worn by married women their entire life, and it was a sign they were now "out of the market" and no one was entitled to see their hair (except their husbands').
The tradition also has religion grounds as per the church teaches you: "So if a woman does not cover her head, she should cut off her hair. If it is a disgrace for a woman to cut off her hair or shave her head, let her cover her own head" and "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.". (1 Corinthians 11)
Nowadays, there are very few women who wear a scarf on their head, (mostly older women), but I bet this trend has been outdated for fashion reasons only. But all the weddings I've been to (and I've been to a lot) respected the tradition. I wonder if the brides knew what it means.
There are clear indications of what you need to do to be a woman. As well as what to do to be a man (show no sign of emotion, be strong, be rich to support your family and don't cry at movies). I was surprised to see that even in our open-minded society with so much parenting guiding, a 5-year-old was crying to his mum in the park because the only available swing was a pink one and he could not use it since he is a boy! He seemed to have a very strong belief about what colours were appropriate for boys. I wonder if he's going to grow with the same strong beliefs about what jobs a man/woman should do.
We live in times when we start to understand that who we are is not a set of rules and guides passed from generation to generation to keep us from misbehaving. But I agree with some of them. We do need rules. We need guides to keep us from destroying the world and live peacefully. And I also think that there are certain things that differentiate a woman from a man and we should keep them.
Just make sure that the ones you decide to keep are the ones which YOU agree with and make you KIND, GENEROUS, UNDERSTANDING but most of all, make you GROW.